I’ve spent all of today considering whether to post this on here in light of this weeks Tumblr habit of deleting blogs that post external links, but i’ve decided that if my blog gets taken down, i want it to be in a blaze of glory and for a link that was to a good cause. This will be a bit of a long post but please do read it.
Most of you know i have a 3 (nearly 4) year old son, who i affectionately call Superpup. Well through his preschool i met what seemed like a very lovely couple, parents to a little person who he became good friends with at school. They seemed like a lovely couple, until middle of the summer holidays i get a message out of the blue from my friend, the childs mother, saying that she had split from her husband. As Superpup loves to play with this child we arranged playdates, and i was shocked to discover a history of almost a decades worth of abuse; physical, mental, emotional.
Anyway, flash forward 4 months, one custody battle later, and my friend has just today been awarded a safe and secure bedsit (single room apartment) in sheltered accommodation. Its warm, dry, and high security which means she finally feels safe for her and her child. But… this is where the gofundme i’ve set up comes in; the british social services (Welfare services) are horribly slow in actually providing support. The room may be warm and dry, but doesn’t come with any bedding, soft furnishings, food, small appliances… anything to make it feel less of a prison cell. I’ve helped all i can, but money is tight for me too, i brought her some groceries but that will only last her until Monday… and her welfare payment doesn’t get into her account until 28th. She’s also still got to pay a nominal rent for her new accommodation. She’s had to give up her job as she worked nights, and doesn’t have any childcare.
Normally i wouldn’t get as emotionally involved, but this time is different; she’s 1000′s of miles from her family as is actually from one of the Southern United States. This time of year is especially hard for her as she’s away from her entire support network during Thanksgiving – which is traditionally the most family orientated holiday in the US – and i’m going to cook her and her child dinner on Thursday (and attempt to cook my first ever Thanksgiving dinner!), and would love to surprise her by showing her what we could raise for her.
So, i appeal to Tumblr’s sense of family, each little fandom is its own family and we look after each other here, so i beg you, please… if you have any way of helping out here, please donate, and even if you can’t donate, please signal boost.
“So many of us have gotten ourselves at the table, but we’re still too grateful to be at the table to really shake it up,” Obama said about women in the workforce.
“That’s not a criticism, because for so many, just getting to the table was so hard, so you’re just holding on.
But now we have to take some risks for our girls…just holding on to our seats at the table won’t be enough to help our girls be all that they can be.”
And then she had some words for the men:
"What I’ve been telling men is, you can’t have it both ways:
You can’t whisper these magical thoughts in your daughter’s ear about who she can be or what she can do….
If you’re tolerating [inequality at work], that is the workplace that’s going to be waiting for your little girl, but you sold her a bill of goods.
You told her she could be anything, but then you’re not working to make sure that can be actualized.
And so men have to understand things don’t just work out for your little precious pea.“
The mother said her children, Addison and Nicholas, were frightened for Lewis when the officer questioned him.
“They said they were scared that they would say the wrong thing and cause him to get arrested,” Mango said, adding that her children love Lewis like a member of the family.
“After this ordeal on Sunday night the first thing the kids asked was, ‘When can he come babysit us again,’“ Mango said.
She said Lewis has for two years picked up her son from school every day and babysat until the parents are off work. Lewis “had to go to a wedding for a week, and every day Nicholas asked when he was coming back,” Mango said.
Take 19th century slaveholder wife Mary Epps. As detailed by Solomon Northup in 12 Years a Slave, Mary Epps became jealous of her husband Edwin’s frequent rapes of a slave girl named Patsey. Mary began beating Patsey, taking no womanly sympathy for her brutal sexual assaults, instead reducing her to a black jezebel interested in sleeping with her husband. Mary encouraged her husband to discipline Patsey after she had left the plantation without permission, leading him to crack his whip at her over 50 times. Slavery is checkered with untold numbers of Patsey’s, who were dual victims of both their male and female masters. “One white lady that lived near us at McBean slipped in a colored gals room and cut her baby’s head clean off cause it belonged to her husband.” recalled a former slave being interviewed in the WPA Slave Narrative Project.
White Feminists AKA Frenemies
Historically, when white feminists have cried out about the injustices of sexism, they often ignored racism- or perpetuated it. As famed suffragist Elizabeth Cady Stanton said, “What will we and our daughters suffer if these degraded black men are allowed to have rights that would make them even worse than our saxon fathers?” Susan B. Anthony was in on it too. “I will cut off this right arm of mine before I will ever work or demand the ballot for the negro and not the woman.” Notice how this statement effectively erased black women from the conversation. When black men were granted the right to vote in 1870, white suffragists were pissed because they believed they were better than black men. Frances E Willard said “It is not fair that a plantation Negro who can neither read or write should be entrusted with the ballot,” before going on to say black men were dangerous threats to white womanhood. By tapping into white men’s fear of nigger rape, Willard hoped to leverage white womanhood for a few male privileges. White women were women, but more importantly (as they implied), they were white…
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Faux-Politically Empowered Girlfriends and Wives
These are the women who gained the right to vote in the 1920s and went buckwild. “White supremacy will be strengthened, not weakened, by women’s suffrage.” said Carrie Chapman Catt. As the recent election demonstrated, she was right. While the KKK became more popular in the years leading up to The Great Depression, white protestant women joined the WKKK in droves. Many of them joined when or after their husbands did. Like their male counterparts, they believed their rights were being trampled on by black people and immigrants. They were also terrified of the black rapist, a villain perpetuated by the popular 1916 film, Birth of a Nation. It shouldn’t be shocking that many of these women were former suffragettes. Even though in the present day the KKK’s once mighty power has been whittled down to hundreds of smaller hate groups, the women who aligned themselves with these male dominated arenas are still around. A contemporary version of this white woman is likely to be decked out in confederate flag belts, uses the complete term “the white race” frequently, and has a drug or alcohol problem. She votes however her father/boyfriend/brothers tell her (if she votes in those “rigged zionist abortions” at all, that is), believes white genocide is imminent, and thinks feminism is a cancer.
Polite But Still Racist Southern Belles
Ah, a true classic. As a North Carolina native, Ive come into contact with a dizzying amount of women like this here in the 21st Century. Well-off white women in costly sundresses with withered french manicured hands encrusted in diamonds; who often clutch at their pearls and say “Bless your heart.” They’re always polite, but usually haughty. Some of the ones I’ve come into contact with have praised me for being articulate or pretty, as if smart or pretty black girls are a rarity. I pity the black people who had to deal with these phony bitches during the Jim Crow era, when their negative opinion could get your house set on fire or your husband strung up from a tree. Hiding behind dainty dresses, southern manners, and the assertion that she treated her negro servants like members of the family, the racist southern belle was a fixture on the 20th century American landscape. With a sugary sweet accent, Christian rhetoric, leisurely afternoons spent gossiping and being nosy, and the power of being married to a man that mattered in the eyes of the law, the average southern white woman was an entitled monster. She was fine with negroes as long as they stayed in their place- aka staying subservient to white people. She was also fine with violence against negroes. In Coming of Age in Mississippi, Anne Moody recalled her employer, Mrs Burke, saying that Emmett Till never would have been murdered had he not ‘forgot his place’. Mrs Burke, and thousands of other women like her, blamed the violent behavior of their husbands, brothers, sons, cousins, and neighbors on black people getting out of place. What a convenient way to excuse depravity from the safehaven of white womanhood.
The “Im a Racist Because Im a Good Mother” Women
Somebody’s child is always being used to justify bullshit. When white parents found out black Ruby Bridges was going to be attending their school, they were pissed. One woman, obviously concerned about the 5 year old Bridges threatening the safety of her own child, threatened to poison Ruby on her daily walks to school. This attitude was repeated by every racist white woman during the integration years. Listen to the woman below use her kids to excuse her racism.
White women being foul racists for the alleged sake of their children was and is common, and made clear by the dozens of unnamed white women you see yelling angrily in historic integration photos. The sadder part? Many have never been identified and never will be.
The Lover of Black Men and Hater of Black Women
This is a relatively new category of white woman, as for the majority of American history miscegenation has been illegal and widely frowned upon. But in the 21st century, this woman thrives. She loves black men and black culture. She publicly applauds black rights. She doesn’t say nigga. She’s cool. She’s down. But at some point, she reveals her true colors and competitive nature. “I love black cock,” she says, signifying that her love for black men isn’t genuine or loyal but instead founded in fetishism. “Black women hate me because black men love me.” she says with total seriousness. Or, “Black girls just mad because they have to wear weave and white girls wear their real hair, THATS WHY WE STEALING YOUR MEN.” Statements like these blatantly reveal her superiority complex with the black woman; whom she hates for being the black man’s counterpart. Clearly, black men are safe from her hatred because they have something she wants- dick and/or validation. Black women though? The mothers, the sisters, the aunts, and the daughters? We’re her enemy.
The Pretty Conduit
Let us go back to Rose Armitage real quick. She seemed innocent and normal until you found out she was raised to kidnap and hypnotize black people for the wanton desires of white family members and friends. Even when Chris KNEW that she was a deranged mayonnaise demon escaped from the deepest pits of hell, he couldn’t bring himself to choke her to death. He looked down at her pretty face and decided that he couldn’t do it. This was one of the scariest parts of the movie to me because it represents America’s response to a type of woman who has grown in popularity thanks to the internet and social media. You already know I’m talking about women like Ann Coulter and Tomi Lahren. She says everything the typical white male racist says- but a sweet voice, a conventionally attractive face, and the privilege of femininity that whiteness grants her keeps the virulent racist bimbo from being labeled as one. Her appearance, gender, and feminine qualities appeal to people that white men can’t. Because of her appearance and status as a white woman, she is protected by white and black men alike. To them she is never angry or bitter, just sassy and passionate. To them she is not racist, just speaking “the truth” or her opinion. In fact, some black men shrug off her racism with a sickening resolve: “I’d still fuck.”
At the end of the film when Rose thought she saw a cop car, she knew she could snap back into victim mode. Had it been a cop instead of Chris’s friend Rod, they’d have seen a bloodied black man looking down on a broken white woman and shot him in a heartbeat. Rose knew she could weave a tale of rape and terror and go on about her life. Not every white woman sucks. But every white woman on this list, and every white woman in real life, has the fake victim card at her disposal. When my former college roommate Elizabeth experienced my reaction to her threat to do me bodily harm, she flipped a switch. She was no longer the vodka fueled instigator making threats and acting tough. She was suddenly crying in the hallway, inconsolable and weak. This is white womanhood. This is their ultimate privilege. At any moment they can go from agitator or abuser to a delicate and innocent white woman in need of protection from the big scary black. Even worse, not every black man or woman will be fortunate enough to have a friend like Rod to come save them when they’ve been accused of violence by a white woman, or when they were simply black in the wrong place at the wrong time. Many have been, and will continue to be caught in the web of faux innocence, lies, and evil spun by white women.
Perhaps this is why Get Out is one of the scariest movies I’ve ever seen.
I’ve never experienced such a barrage of emotions in such a short span of time 😣😔
It angers me when I read or watch about feminist and suffragette movements from the 1910‘s or 20‘s (all the way to today with me too) and then actually read articles like these. Because the suffragette movement was all about EQUALITY and yet the majority and leaders didn’t want black women in their movement. It’s also kinda embarrassing that I didn’t realize this sooner since the most famous and public suffragettes were all white. I mean obviously there’d be black exclusion but probably more so that black women didn’t have a movement they could join and pour their energy into because no matter what something would be taken away from them. The white suffragettes took away black women‘s humanity and the civil rights movement blew right past the „remember black women because they are important as humans and as a part of this movement“ (I’m paraphrasing Malcom X but yea)
Chapters: 2/? Fandom: Den of Thieves (2018) Rating: Explicit Warnings: No Archive Warnings Apply Relationships: Ray Merrimen/OFC Characters: Ray Merrimen Additional Tags: AU, den of thieves au Summary: A chance meeting at a gala leads to a series of illicit encounters. But he doesn’t have to know…
“I will never forget, at the age of eight, watching the local news and seeing two men kiss while a local reporter discussed an HIV/AIDS fundraiser taking place in our city. Until then, I had never seen two men kiss openly, and I turned to my mom to ask her about it. The idea of queer relationships was foreign to me, and I had a lot of questions. Even though same-sex marriage is now legal in the United States and in Canada, many LGBTQ+ folks face discrimination day in and day out. This is why conversations with our kids surrounding the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender, queer, and otherwise gender nonconforming (LGBTQ+) community need to start sooner. That’s where Lindsey Amer comes in.
Amer created and produces the YouTube channel Queer Kids Stuff, an educational series for kids that approaches LGBTQ+ issues in a positive and nonjudgmental way. After realizing that there weren’t many resources out there for parents and educators, Amer decided it was time to fill the niche for herself.
“Really, I’m just making the content I wish I’d had when I was a kid,” she tells us. “I think it’s so important for young people to see themselves reflected in their media, and this age group is so often overlooked.”
In the new Netflix original animated film Next Gen, Krasinski plays 7723, an extremely advanced robot in a world already full of robots where people wait for the newest model like we wait for the newest iPhone. In the midst of this world, a lonely girl (Charlyne Yi) who feels cut off even from her mother stumbles upon 7723, and he immediately begins trying to befriend her. The two begin to bond, but their friendship quickly becomes something more when it becomes clear that evil killer robots made by a madman are about to become a major threat to the world.
This is what I’m here for. Not only do we need men supporting women who come out about sexual abuse but we really need men supporting other men when they come forward about these stories. Like not only am I happy that Brendan came forward but I’m so proud of Terry for voicing his support of Brendan. This is huge.
Brendan Fraser was sexually assaulted!? What the fuck!
Back in 2003 he got sexually assaulted by the former president of the
Hollywood Foreign Press Association. This was during the year “Looney Tunes: Back in Action” came out just to ruin that movie for everyone but nobody would listen to him.
On the inevitable Black Panther sequel, Bassett said, “I would kid when we were working, saying, ‘When we come back for (Black Panther 2), she’s going to really get into the game. You’re gonna see some of her skills and (T’Challa will) say, ‘That’s my mama.’ She’s going to throw down. I’m going to say, ‘I used to be a Dora (Milaje),’” she said, referring to the all-female army in Wakanda. And I still have some of those moves. Don’t underestimate mom!“
“Andy Weiss is writing the screenplay about the Bahamian-born backyard brawler who rose from homelessness to mixed martial arts fame after his brutal backyard fights drew a huge YouTube audience. Kimbo Slice died suddenly in June 2016 at 42 from heart failure and a liver mass.
“It’s a rich and layered tale about this man’s incredible journey from a poor neighborhood in Miami to becoming a worldwide phenomenon,,” says producer Steve Lee Jones. “We are ecstatic that Winston has decided to take on this both physically and emotionally challenging role. We simply could not find a better Kimbo!”
Duke, who will also serve as an executive producer alongside Kimbo’s longtime friend, employer and manager Michael Imber, also seems excited for the part: “I’m looking forward to exploring Kimbo’s story and interrogating the expectations society places on men like him who are their own special breed of hero.”
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